People love to see other people fail. It's an inherent human flaw that I have seen resurface again and again. Us Irish are renowned for being begrudging towards the success of our family and friends. I don't know why this is, I'm usually genuinely happy when a family member or friend achieves something, tries something new and pretty much feels happy about any advancement in their life. In fact, I like to encourage this behaviour. But I find this feeling isn't always mutual.
I see it all the time. You try something new and there will always be someone who won't be happy about it for some reason or another. You change up your diet a little and someone is telling you why it's unhealthy. You try a new exercise or just even start going to the gym a little more and bam, people think you're overdoing it. It boils down to the fact that people feel uncomfortable with you changing who you are, because it challenges who they are. People don't like feeling like their life choices are wrong, immoral or unhealthy so when you decide to make a positive change in your life, people for some reason take it as a personal attack on their choices.
People find comfort in complacency and this is where I feel the most uncomfortable. I constantly crave the evolution of who I am and what I envision for myself. The scariest thing for me is to let myself drop into this zone of complacency, the place I am currently orbiting. It's comfy here, I get to live rent free, get my dinner cooked for me every night and I can watch TV all day if I want to. What's not to love? I'm wasting time. Time I could use to do all the things I want to do; train for a half-marathon, get a job, travel, finally get that elusive six-pack, meet new people, the list in endless. And yeah I'm looking for a job and continuing to keep up the fitness but I'm not actually getting anywhere because I haven't set myself any concrete goals. There is quite literally nothing stopping me from achieving all these things and yet I haven't done one yet. It's time to get my ass in gear and in gear it shall get. Thankfully, I have a whole bunch of supportive friends and family members who support me whatever I choose to do but there will always be those begrudging folks who don't want to see anyone do well. Be it a fitness goal, a career goal or a just a small lifestyle change, don't pay any heed to people who are negative about your choices - fuck em.